Thoughts

I know I still have a long way to go but one of the many things I’ve noticed about people when it comes to self improvement is that they know what’s wrong in their lives whether it be themselves, their children, their siblings, their parents, cousin, friends or even their significant other BUT don’t address it or do anything to change it for the better. Some may think it’s not worth it, some may think they don’t need it, some may think if they address it they’ll be alone, some may think it will trigger themselves or the other person, some may think that it’ll destroy the relationship that they have with that person. Even some may not even realize that there’s toxicity in their life because they were not taught the difference between positivity & negativity in their life. Some may know what’s wrong in their lives but are afraid of the consequences of addressing it which is understandable. When you need to improve for yourself you can do the steps yourself & slowly progress & there is no right or wrong way either. When it’s regarding someone else it can be difficult especially when it’s someone you can’t cut ties with like a family member or a person you have kid(s) with. Think about what improvements you’d want to do for yourself or on yourself, are you happier? Are you at peace? Are you satisfied? If those answers are “yes” then there is a need for improvement whether that be mentally, emotionally, spiritually or physically. We all can improve & we can improve one day & one step at a time at your own pace at a consistent pace. Now think about some people in your life, are they respectful to you? Do they encourage you? Do they bring positive energy around you? Do they want the best for you? Do they call you out when you’re wrong? If those answers are “no” then you need to reevaluate the people in your life. Even family members can be reevaluated in your life because some family members can be negative & maybe it’s because they’re going through something themselves & need to do their own work or maybe they don’t know the negativity they bring to you. Self improvement is not for other people, it’s for you & the people that genuinely love you & care about you will adapt to your improvements if anything you can be an example for them to improve themselves. They will encourage & applaud you but for the people who lecture you or are against it or question you about it probably don’t even know the fathom of what you are trying to do. Now when those people are family members then that’s for you to put up your boundaries & stick to them even if it hurts. YOU come first for self love, self care & self improvement then the people who matter will benefit from it. Think about who is important & who matters, is it family, friends, or a significant other? Maybe none? Think about your circle & who actually deserves to be in it because self improvement can involve changing your circle as well. Think about it, who needs to go & who needs to stay? Who’s worth keeping around? Who needs to know, understand & respect your boundaries?